Apr 29, 2026
Narcissism isn't always obvious. In this episode, Joe speaks with Deanna about the subtle, invisible forms of abuse that can cost you your sense of self—and how to take it back.
Deanna explores the difference between healthy relationships and narcissistic ones, unpacks gaslighting with real examples, and explains why your nervous system stays trapped in fight-or-flight even after the relationship ends. She breaks down how emotional abuse compounds over time, affecting everything from your immune system to your ability to trust yourself.
If you've ever felt confused, blamed, or like you're losing your mind in a relationship—this conversation is for you.
Topics Covered:
- What narcissism really is (and why it's more than just being selfish)
- The telltale signs: inability to compromise, gaslighting, zero accountability
- Why you don't trust yourself anymore—and how childhood trauma connects
- The physical toll of living in constant stress and anxiety
- Healing looks different for everyone (and it takes time)
- One immediate tool: finding stillness to activate your parasympathetic nervous system
Key Takeaways:
- Boundaries aren't selfish—they're essential to healthy relationships
- Hurt people hurt people, but that doesn't justify the damage
- Your nervous system learned a pattern; it can learn a new one
- Energy healing and holistic approaches work when you're intentional about recovery
- Healing is reconnecting with yourself—your intuition, your heart, your spirit
Guest: Deanna
Website: www.healinghandsbydeanna.com
Services: Reiki & Energy Healing | Intuitive
Coaching | Narcissistic Abuse Recovery
Locations: In-person (Charlotte, NC) | Virtual
sessions available nationwide
YouTube Channel: Healing Hands by Deanna (mind,
body, spirit tips and self-care tools)
Support Group: Meetup community for narcissistic
abuse recovery survivors